Sudo SME for Nillas

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1. Email: Your email address is not required (only if you want to be entered to win the gift certificate and handy if you want the final results emailed to you) This question requires a valid email address.

2. My gender is:

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3. My sexual orientation is:

4. My relationship status is:

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5. Which of the following best represents your racial or ethnic heritage?

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7. I get the most turned-on when:

8. I would get most turned on in an erotic situation if:"Taking control" in a sexual situation can be subtle, including introducing activities or changing positions, or more overt, such as using restraints or role-play.

9. In an average erotic encounter, how easily are you distracted from your erotic thoughts: (distractions can be worries, thoughts or feelings, such as with your performance, body or everyday life).Choose your current partner. If you are not in relationship at the moment, choose the most recent partner.

10. Take a moment to imagine an ideal erotic scenario. I can get more turned-on if: *This question is required.

Space Cell	strongly agree	agree	not relevant	disagree	strongly disagree
I can lead the action	I can lead the action: strongly agree	I can lead the action: agree	I can lead the action: not relevant	I can lead the action: disagree	I can lead the action: strongly disagree
I can feel "big"	I can feel "big": strongly agree	I can feel "big": agree	I can feel "big": not relevant	I can feel "big": disagree	I can feel "big": strongly disagree
I can feel a little exposed	I can feel a little exposed: strongly agree	I can feel a little exposed: agree	I can feel a little exposed: not relevant	I can feel a little exposed: disagree	I can feel a little exposed: strongly disagree
My partner is attentive	My partner is attentive: strongly agree	My partner is attentive: agree	My partner is attentive: not relevant	My partner is attentive: disagree	My partner is attentive: strongly disagree
My partner is expressive	My partner is expressive: strongly agree	My partner is expressive: agree	My partner is expressive: not relevant	My partner is expressive: disagree	My partner is expressive: strongly disagree
I can show vulnerability	I can show vulnerability: strongly agree	I can show vulnerability: agree	I can show vulnerability: not relevant	I can show vulnerability: disagree	I can show vulnerability: strongly disagree
I can determine what happens next	I can determine what happens next: strongly agree	I can determine what happens next: agree	I can determine what happens next: not relevant	I can determine what happens next: disagree	I can determine what happens next: strongly disagree
I can be passive to the action	I can be passive to the action: strongly agree	I can be passive to the action: agree	I can be passive to the action: not relevant	I can be passive to the action: disagree	I can be passive to the action: strongly disagree
I can defer to my lover	I can defer to my lover: strongly agree	I can defer to my lover: agree	I can defer to my lover: not relevant	I can defer to my lover: disagree	I can defer to my lover: strongly disagree
I am actively encouraged to let go	I am actively encouraged to let go: strongly agree	I am actively encouraged to let go: agree	I am actively encouraged to let go: not relevant	I am actively encouraged to let go: disagree	I am actively encouraged to let go: strongly disagree
I don't have to make decisions	I don't have to make decisions: strongly agree	I don't have to make decisions: agree	I don't have to make decisions: not relevant	I don't have to make decisions: disagree	I don't have to make decisions: strongly disagree
I can be creative	I can be creative: strongly agree	I can be creative: agree	I can be creative: not relevant	I can be creative: disagree	I can be creative: strongly disagree
I can enter a trance-like state	I can enter a trance-like state: strongly agree	I can enter a trance-like state: agree	I can enter a trance-like state: not relevant	I can enter a trance-like state: disagree	I can enter a trance-like state: strongly disagree
I can feel powerful	I can feel powerful: strongly agree	I can feel powerful: agree	I can feel powerful: not relevant	I can feel powerful: disagree	I can feel powerful: strongly disagree
I can be assertive	I can be assertive: strongly agree	I can be assertive: agree	I can be assertive: not relevant	I can be assertive: disagree	I can be assertive: strongly disagree
I can anticipate the next action	I can anticipate the next action: strongly agree	I can anticipate the next action: agree	I can anticipate the next action: not relevant	I can anticipate the next action: disagree	I can anticipate the next action: strongly disagree
I can have my sexual limits pushed	I can have my sexual limits pushed: strongly agree	I can have my sexual limits pushed: agree	I can have my sexual limits pushed: not relevant	I can have my sexual limits pushed: disagree	I can have my sexual limits pushed: strongly disagree
I can feel in control	I can feel in control: strongly agree	I can feel in control: agree	I can feel in control: not relevant	I can feel in control: disagree	I can feel in control: strongly disagree
I can let go of making decisions	I can let go of making decisions: strongly agree	I can let go of making decisions: agree	I can let go of making decisions: not relevant	I can let go of making decisions: disagree	I can let go of making decisions: strongly disagree
I can set the pace	I can set the pace: strongly agree	I can set the pace: agree	I can set the pace: not relevant	I can set the pace: disagree	I can set the pace: strongly disagree
I can be independent	I can be independent: strongly agree	I can be independent: agree	I can be independent: not relevant	I can be independent: disagree	I can be independent: strongly disagree
I can merge with my partner	I can merge with my partner: strongly agree	I can merge with my partner: agree	I can merge with my partner: not relevant	I can merge with my partner: disagree	I can merge with my partner: strongly disagree
I can be resourceful	I can be resourceful: strongly agree	I can be resourceful: agree	I can be resourceful: not relevant	I can be resourceful: disagree	I can be resourceful: strongly disagree
I can be responsible for what happens next	I can be responsible for what happens next: strongly agree	I can be responsible for what happens next: agree	I can be responsible for what happens next: not relevant	I can be responsible for what happens next: disagree	I can be responsible for what happens next: strongly disagree
I trust my partner knows what to do next	I trust my partner knows what to do next: strongly agree	I trust my partner knows what to do next: agree	I trust my partner knows what to do next: not relevant	I trust my partner knows what to do next: disagree	I trust my partner knows what to do next: strongly disagree
I can feel forceful	I can feel forceful: strongly agree	I can feel forceful: agree	I can feel forceful: not relevant	I can feel forceful: disagree	I can feel forceful: strongly disagree

11. How much of a turn-on are each of the following erotic scenarios (to think about or to do)? *This question is required.Be honest! Your answers are completely anonymous.

Space Cell	Strong turn-on	Moderate turn-on	Mild turn-on	Not a turn on
Pushing my partner's sexual limits	Pushing my partner's sexual limits: Strong turn-on	Pushing my partner's sexual limits: Moderate turn-on	Pushing my partner's sexual limits: Mild turn-on	Pushing my partner's sexual limits: Not a turn on
Having my sexual limits pushed	Having my sexual limits pushed: Strong turn-on	Having my sexual limits pushed: Moderate turn-on	Having my sexual limits pushed: Mild turn-on	Having my sexual limits pushed: Not a turn on
Directing what happens next	Directing what happens next: Strong turn-on	Directing what happens next: Moderate turn-on	Directing what happens next: Mild turn-on	Directing what happens next: Not a turn on
Being directed in what happens next	Being directed in what happens next: Strong turn-on	Being directed in what happens next: Moderate turn-on	Being directed in what happens next: Mild turn-on	Being directed in what happens next: Not a turn on
"Forcing" my partner (in play)	"Forcing" my partner (in play): Strong turn-on	"Forcing" my partner (in play): Moderate turn-on	"Forcing" my partner (in play): Mild turn-on	"Forcing" my partner (in play): Not a turn on
"Being forced" (in play)	"Being forced" (in play): Strong turn-on	"Being forced" (in play): Moderate turn-on	"Being forced" (in play): Mild turn-on	"Being forced" (in play): Not a turn on
Evoking sensation	Evoking sensation: Strong turn-on	Evoking sensation: Moderate turn-on	Evoking sensation: Mild turn-on	Evoking sensation: Not a turn on
Receiving sensation	Receiving sensation: Strong turn-on	Receiving sensation: Moderate turn-on	Receiving sensation: Mild turn-on	Receiving sensation: Not a turn on
Rendering my partner helpless (in play)	Rendering my partner helpless (in play): Strong turn-on	Rendering my partner helpless (in play): Moderate turn-on	Rendering my partner helpless (in play): Mild turn-on	Rendering my partner helpless (in play): Not a turn on
Being helpless (in play)	Being helpless (in play): Strong turn-on	Being helpless (in play): Moderate turn-on	Being helpless (in play): Mild turn-on	Being helpless (in play): Not a turn on
Restraining my partner	Restraining my partner: Strong turn-on	Restraining my partner: Moderate turn-on	Restraining my partner: Mild turn-on	Restraining my partner: Not a turn on
Being restrained	Being restrained: Strong turn-on	Being restrained: Moderate turn-on	Being restrained: Mild turn-on	Being restrained: Not a turn on
Controlling my partner	Controlling my partner: Strong turn-on	Controlling my partner: Moderate turn-on	Controlling my partner: Mild turn-on	Controlling my partner: Not a turn on
Being controlled	Being controlled: Strong turn-on	Being controlled: Moderate turn-on	Being controlled: Mild turn-on	Being controlled: Not a turn on
Pushing my partner against a wall	Pushing my partner against a wall: Strong turn-on	Pushing my partner against a wall: Moderate turn-on	Pushing my partner against a wall: Mild turn-on	Pushing my partner against a wall: Not a turn on
Being pushed against a wall	Being pushed against a wall: Strong turn-on	Being pushed against a wall: Moderate turn-on	Being pushed against a wall: Mild turn-on	Being pushed against a wall: Not a turn on
Leading my partner	Leading my partner: Strong turn-on	Leading my partner: Moderate turn-on	Leading my partner: Mild turn-on	Leading my partner: Not a turn on
Following my partner's lead	Following my partner's lead: Strong turn-on	Following my partner's lead: Moderate turn-on	Following my partner's lead: Mild turn-on	Following my partner's lead: Not a turn on
Taking charge, leading the activity	Taking charge, leading the activity: Strong turn-on	Taking charge, leading the activity: Moderate turn-on	Taking charge, leading the activity: Mild turn-on	Taking charge, leading the activity: Not a turn on
Letting go, allowing a partner to take charge of the activity	Letting go, allowing a partner to take charge of the activity: Strong turn-on	Letting go, allowing a partner to take charge of the activity: Moderate turn-on	Letting go, allowing a partner to take charge of the activity: Mild turn-on	Letting go, allowing a partner to take charge of the activity: Not a turn on
Holding my partner down	Holding my partner down: Strong turn-on	Holding my partner down: Moderate turn-on	Holding my partner down: Mild turn-on	Holding my partner down: Not a turn on
Being held down	Being held down: Strong turn-on	Being held down: Moderate turn-on	Being held down: Mild turn-on	Being held down: Not a turn on
Knowing what is going to happen next	Knowing what is going to happen next: Strong turn-on	Knowing what is going to happen next: Moderate turn-on	Knowing what is going to happen next: Mild turn-on	Knowing what is going to happen next: Not a turn on
Not knowing what will happen next	Not knowing what will happen next: Strong turn-on	Not knowing what will happen next: Moderate turn-on	Not knowing what will happen next: Mild turn-on	Not knowing what will happen next: Not a turn on
Dominating my partner	Dominating my partner: Strong turn-on	Dominating my partner: Moderate turn-on	Dominating my partner: Mild turn-on	Dominating my partner: Not a turn on
Submitting to my partner	Submitting to my partner: Strong turn-on	Submitting to my partner: Moderate turn-on	Submitting to my partner: Mild turn-on	Submitting to my partner: Not a turn on
Asserting myself	Asserting myself : Strong turn-on	Asserting myself : Moderate turn-on	Asserting myself : Mild turn-on	Asserting myself : Not a turn on
Surrendering to the situation	Surrendering to the situation: Strong turn-on	Surrendering to the situation: Moderate turn-on	Surrendering to the situation: Mild turn-on	Surrendering to the situation: Not a turn on
Spanking a partner	Spanking a partner: Strong turn-on	Spanking a partner: Moderate turn-on	Spanking a partner: Mild turn-on	Spanking a partner: Not a turn on
Being spanked by a partner	Being spanked by a partner: Strong turn-on	Being spanked by a partner: Moderate turn-on	Being spanked by a partner: Mild turn-on	Being spanked by a partner: Not a turn on
Being positioned by my partner	Being positioned by my partner: Strong turn-on	Being positioned by my partner: Moderate turn-on	Being positioned by my partner: Mild turn-on	Being positioned by my partner: Not a turn on
Positioning my partner	Positioning my partner: Strong turn-on	Positioning my partner: Moderate turn-on	Positioning my partner: Mild turn-on	Positioning my partner: Not a turn on
Tying a partner up	Tying a partner up: Strong turn-on	Tying a partner up: Moderate turn-on	Tying a partner up: Mild turn-on	Tying a partner up: Not a turn on
Being tied up	Being tied up: Strong turn-on	Being tied up: Moderate turn-on	Being tied up: Mild turn-on	Being tied up: Not a turn on
Planning the next move	Planning the next move: Strong turn-on	Planning the next move: Moderate turn-on	Planning the next move: Mild turn-on	Planning the next move: Not a turn on
Awaiting for the next move	Awaiting for the next move: Strong turn-on	Awaiting for the next move: Moderate turn-on	Awaiting for the next move: Mild turn-on	Awaiting for the next move: Not a turn on
Setting up a sexy environment	Setting up a sexy environment: Strong turn-on	Setting up a sexy environment: Moderate turn-on	Setting up a sexy environment: Mild turn-on	Setting up a sexy environment: Not a turn on
Having my partner set up a sexy environment for me	Having my partner set up a sexy environment for me: Strong turn-on	Having my partner set up a sexy environment for me: Moderate turn-on	Having my partner set up a sexy environment for me: Mild turn-on	Having my partner set up a sexy environment for me: Not a turn on
Commanding my partner	Commanding my partner: Strong turn-on	Commanding my partner: Moderate turn-on	Commanding my partner: Mild turn-on	Commanding my partner: Not a turn on
Being commanded	Being commanded: Strong turn-on	Being commanded: Moderate turn-on	Being commanded: Mild turn-on	Being commanded: Not a turn on
Directing or reassuring my partner to be passive	Directing or reassuring my partner to be passive: Strong turn-on	Directing or reassuring my partner to be passive: Moderate turn-on	Directing or reassuring my partner to be passive: Mild turn-on	Directing or reassuring my partner to be passive: Not a turn on
“Letting go” of having to do anything	“Letting go” of having to do anything: Strong turn-on	“Letting go” of having to do anything: Moderate turn-on	“Letting go” of having to do anything: Mild turn-on	“Letting go” of having to do anything: Not a turn on

12. I believe my partner may judge me if: (choose as many as apply to you)

13. Think of a sexual fantasy that you have had recently and write about it in the space below. You can write about the first one that comes to mind, or, if you think of several, write about on that is common for you, or that is one of your favorites.
Please describe in detail the specific scene, series of events, sensations, feelings, dynamics and thoughts that were experienced by you and the other figures in your fantasy.